A few days ago, I dived into an article that was centered on marital crises since it bewildered me that someone would choose to remain in a marriage while being bullied.
The story was about a youngster called Tega and her destitute single mother. The mother never missed the least opportunity to tell Tega that she was the key to altering their lives.
After many experiences with guys, Tega believed she had found “The One”, who was financially powerful and loving. They got married, but later on, his real colors gradually started to peek out. He spoke with anger laced in his voice to her and beat her at the slightest provocation. This resulted in two miscarriages among other humiliating things he did to her. Tega couldn’t tell her mother about the issue because she didn’t want to disappoint her, which would mean going back to the slums.
Tega’s solace while enduring the anguish was that her mother was no longer suffering, although she, on her own, was facing a loveless and brutal marriage.
The extra effort you make to convey your love reveals how serious and committed you are. According to the established thinking of our society: It’s easy to forget when you go above and beyond, that you either lose yourself or reveal a part of yourself that you didn’t know you possessed.
Never underestimate the cost of going above and beyond for a cause without losing yourself in the process. It’s better to change your perspective regularly to make a point than to lose yourself all the time.
Now the true issue should be thus: “IS YOUR SITUATION WORTH YOU BEING IN A FIXED POSITION AND NOT CHANGING PERSPECTIVE?”
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© Jude Ebeledike
