As prim and proper as I am, I have offended by bringing my clique to people’s weddings or letting my plus one invite their friends to a wedding I ALONE was invited to. Which is something MOST people have done.
The genuine underlining reason why we gate crash (bringing other people to an event you alone were invited to) is very simple; WE BELIEVE YOUR WEDDING WILL BE BORING AND WE ARE MOSTLY RIGHT!
Besides watching you love on your bae and rubbing it on our faces, what else is there to watch? Hurray, you are FINALLY married, we know!
So what should you do or what can you do about it? Well, read to the end to find out.
We bring our friends because if we don’t, we are going to be extremely lonely and become that guy or girl feeling awkward at the table, texting away, or trying so hard to keep busy with their phone, hoping to make it to the part where food is shared (if we’ll be served at all), then wait in a line to at least get a nod from the bride or groom acknowledging your presence (his or her royal majesty) so that we can make a dash for the door and put away our horrific experience at your wedding. Instead of leaving with a feeling of fulfillment, gratitude for new connections, or testifying months later that they met the love of their life at your wedding.
I only ever have three recommendations. The choice amongst the three is yours to make.
OPTION ONE – DON’T CARE
Yes, I said it, DON’T CARE. I’m proud of you if you can easily not care, especially as you’ve been a guest at some point in your life too. The fact is, it is your day and as his or her royal majesty that you are, why should you care about things like this when you have so many important things to deal with at that moment when you should be enjoying this fabulous moment with the bae of life?
Please let them sort themselves out, you can’t kill yourself for anybody. If they can’t appreciate every sacrifice you have made to ensure they have a plate of food at your wedding, that’s their business.
They should be happy you invited them, INGRATES, right? Princess, you are right but know that you sound like a royal douchebag. Hey, if you are cool with it, so are we!
OPTION TWO – COMEDIAN + DJ
Surely, a great way to handle boredom is to make sure there is music to dance to and a comedian to make them laugh. After all, what else is enjoyment and how else do you get people to loosen up and have fun if not with food, drinks, comedy, and music?
True, you are correct, if your wedding theme is a comedy show. You score higher for making an appreciated effort to help people relax, and have a good time but what effort did you make to connect specially and individually with your guest on this occasion? How did you get your guest to connect with each other by having you as the focal point?
OPTION THREE – HELP THEM CONNECT (Perfect Wedding)
Understand this, most people at your wedding will probably be meeting each other for the first time all connected by their relationship with you. That is a good thing because it means that nearly every guest sitting beside each other though they barely know their names, likely share common interests, common hobbies, or common connection with themselves as they do with you.
All you need to do is get them to realize and connect on that level. They will probably become closer if they find out that they have more in common. They will NEVER forget that you brought them together at your wedding which is in itself a double blessing.
This means that for a fact, romantic relationships, job opportunities, business partnerships, etc can be born at your wedding IF and ONLY IF you would gift that to your guest at your wedding.
For example, A simple careful arrangement of the seats and the use of personalized game cards on the table describing each person at the table without mentioning their name or profession and asking each guest to guess amongst themselves will spark natural interest in making them want to know their fellow guest and ask more questions about each other.
Personally greet your guests and make introductions, in a cool way not as if you are desperately trying to pawn them off.
That would help them connect at your wedding and after, increasing the energy at your wedding that that elaborate decor can’t give.
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If you can promise your guest no awkward moments or selfishness on your part by making them watch you like a terrible movie, then they’ll trust you when you tell them not to bring back-ups to your wedding except their plus one.
They are likely to take you seriously and always appreciate you for thinking about them even on your wedding day. WHICH IS RARE!